INSTRUCTIONS:  The Paper is to be Carefully Typed and Organized by the numbers/topics below.

On Your Valentine's Day Date, Select any Combination of points totaling 20 pts.  

You may earn up to 5 pts extra credit if you are creative in the Report you hand in...graphics, organization, originality
are encouraged.   The paper is due the first day of class meeting after Valentine's Day.

Have fun, be nice and you may get another date.

1. Definition of the Situation:   D/S's are created by the use of some combination of symbol sets...5 pts

	What special clothing did you use to help 'define the situation' as a special 
	'Romantic' Definition of the Situation?   2 pts.

	What special body talk did you use...you need not be too specific here.  1 pt.

	What special cosmetics/body decorations did you use?  1 pt.

	What special words/phrases did you use?  1 pt.

2.  Gender Norms:  most gender norms require the female be passive, gentle, deferential
	and submissive...and most such norms are so familiar that they are hard to 'see.'
	5 points Maximum

	Garfinkel tells us we can make such norms visible by 'broaching tactics'...so...
	broach two or three gender norms and report what happen...

	You might try to pay for the date...drive the car...2 pts each
	You might open doors, hold chairs, openly display affection...or openly criticize...
	You might make the date; pick up your date or, if a male, vice versa. 1 pt each.

	if you do, You should get....

3.  Social Control tactics use to bring you back into 'normal' gender behavior. 5 Pts total.

	Frowns, gentle pushes of a verbal, outright expressions of dismay at your behavior,
	shoulder shrugging, eye display, mouth twisting and false smiles often signal
	social control effort...

	Others nearby make comment louder than usual; laugh and point; turn-away
	or by other means let you know you have lost it in terms of the normative structure at hand. 

	Report on any such control tactics used by your date or by people nearby.

	Forms of social control:  points as indicated:  
			physical force 2  point each...Your date may push your money/hand 
			aside when you try to pay for the dinner.
			Economic tactics 1 point each...Your date may claim to have more
			money than do you..
			social power 1 point each... Your date may try to appeal to the harm
			you are doing to your relationship...his feelings, his status etc.
			moral power 1 point each...your date may refer to the norms and/or values
			which are 'normal' to a date; to Valentine's Day.

4.  FORMS OF AWAY:  Goffman describes the small clues to 'being away from
	the Sociology of it all....5 pts maximum
	Forms of away include: toy involvement's, boundary conspiracies, brown
	studies, fugues and other 'non-game' events such as coughing, sighing,
	unattached words or actions...use your imagination and report on which
	Forms of away you used and what happened when you used them.
	1 point each...again, up to 5 possible.

5.  Reality Quotients...each social occasion has its own degree of social facticity.
	5 points maximum.  Explain how any given behavior affects the RQ of this
	social occasion.

	Forms of away lower the RQ for something called a 'date.'  1 pt. each.
	You may toy with your food while ignoring your date; you may play with 
	your hair, search your purse, adjust your clothing...any such non-game event
	detracts from the Sociology of it All.

OR	You can push the limits of the reality constructing process by staying super
	up-tight to the sociology of it all.  2 points each...but be careful

	Hang on every word of your date...comment on every small act...praise his/her
	clothing...evaluate every food item for its 'romantic' meaning...
	Pull your date back into interactive intensive social work when s/he seems to
	be drifting away from the Sociology of it All...grab a hand, touch a cheek, lean
	very close...lots of ways to re-new the Sociology of it All.

	Report on what you did and how close to real 'reality' you came...on a 10 pt. scale.

6.   Engagement Cues...in most social occasions, there is a moment in time in which
	the sociology of it all begins and physiology, psychology and biology must be
	oriented to the officially given definition of the situation...5 pts max.
	You can have fun with engagement cues as well...

	Ask your date, often, are we ready to start yet?  ...has the date actually begun??
	Is s/he ready???	When will we begin????  and so on...1 pt each.

	Conversely, there also Dis-engagement cues telling you the date is over...you can
	also play around with them...refusing to acknowledge them when your date is
	'giving them off' or...giving dis-engagement cues far too early in the evening. 	1 pt each.

7.  Cooling the Mark out...whenever some one is victim to the sociology of fraud...as is
	the case with your 'date'....s/he needs to be assured that there is nothing personal
	involved which affects her/his Social Status as a full adult...so you must repair
	any damage you may have done to the self-esteem of your friend or the social relationship with
	which you have been playing/fooling around/experimenting with the past few hours.

	Report on how you 'cooled' your 'mark' off.  5 pts Max.